Single and Christian on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s day.

The day in February where love is in the air. Couples go on dates. There is love at first sight as some are struck by Cupid’s arrow.

However, is that what Valentine’s day is all about? A day for couples? What about those who are single?

For so many years entertainment has given “single” people a bad rap because they are not in a relationship, especially on Valentine’s day. They think we are crawling into a cave for being single and that we will never find a special someone to be with.

As a 19-year-old, I have been single for my whole life. I used to find it tough to be single due to having friends who have their boyfriends or girlfriends, but then I thought of my singleness through God’s eye.

God is the Father of love and purity. 

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant…” and Matthew 5:8 states, “Blessed [are] the pure in heart: for they shall see God.”

Being single is not a curse, but a gift from God. We have a responsibility to be pure and holy as we are putting aside relationships (that doesn’t include friendships) and seeking God first before anything. Singleness is not boring, but a journey, if you change your idea of it.

Here are some things single Christians can focus on: 

1. Spend time with friends and family

With being single you have all the time to grow your friendships and relationships with family, especially with your parents. Honor your mother and Father, as God said in Exodus 20:12. If you’re single and have not had a great relationship with your mom and dad, now, it is important to have that or else it will affect your future relationships.

2. Keeping yourself pure and healthy

In a world where impurity is everywhere it’s a challenge to be Christian. However, we have the Holy Spirit to be with us wherever we go. God’s word tells us:

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

3. Aside from being physically pure, God also calls us to be Morally Pure

Philippians 4:8 says “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

Last but not least is the ultimate sacrifice of love that Jesus gave when he went to the cross for us. Let us not ever forget the price he paid for each and every one of us!

4. Find yourself through God

We can’t find ourselves on our own, we seek God to know our identity.  Lamentations 3:25 says “The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him.”

What should Valentine’s day be for single people?

A day to love and be grateful for all relationships, whether it’s friends or family.

Love should not be shown in one day, but every day when you know there is a God that will always love you.