Prickly friendships and cactus friends
“Self love is a good thing but self awareness is more important. You need to once in a while go, ‘Uh I’m kind of an a-hole.’” Louis C.K. It’s been on my mind for a while: I treat Jesus like…
Category: Relationships
The end is not today: My battle with suicide and depression
In high school I was suicidal. Although the impulse was overwhelming at times, it would come on like a wave and be gone in a couple of hours. This time was different. This time everything was different. It began like…
Life Update: Finding La Bon Vie
If you like your life the way it is, never ever EVER pray for peace. I had everything figured out. I would marry Joel and we would work together to be less miserable as time went on. I would rent…
Just a paper boat headed towards the open ocean
In February, two months before Joel and I broke up, I prayed an unusual prayer. “God, please let whatever is hidden between us be made known. Let our secrets come out of the dark and into the light.” That was…
A step by step guide to thriving after heartbreak
Step 1. Grieve We are told “it’s okay to cry” since elementary school, but crying still makes me feel stupid and ugly so I ignore the impulse until it goes away. However, like an earthquake that causes a tsunami, the…
What is love? (Define and then find)
Going through my break-up with Joel has been a battle against the ocean—some days the waves are small and easy to climb over, others feel like I’m being crushed and pulled under by the riptide. I must have searched for…
Loved and lost: Single after almost 8 years Taken
“You will lose loved ones because of me,” Jesus promised. I knew what that phrase meant but I didn’t understand it until last night. While we still love them we will lose them. Last night, less than 2 months before…
Guest post: Single and Christian on Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s day. The day in February where love is in the air. Couples go on dates. There is love at first sight as some are struck by Cupid’s arrow. However, is that what Valentine’s day is all about? A day…
Honest marriage expectations: Greatest discomfort and best growing tool
Last week I had to get an experimental yellow fever shot with my boss. Thankfully, of the two of us, I was the only one who had a reaction. Within 10 minutes of getting the dose my eyes started to…
When fiction and reality collide
Maybe it’s because I’m a writer, but I often get carried away in dreams and “could have been”s and sometimes I mistake my made-up stories for how things actually are. On Thursday it happened again. It’s not the kind of…